You were vibrant. Whole. Untouched by their chaos.
This book is for the woman who looks in the mirror and barely recognizes herself—because somewhere along the way, you poured too much into someone who never deserved you.

Before them, you laughed louder, dreamed bigger, and felt freer. I Miss Who I Was Before Them is a tender, confessional guide to grieving the self you lost in love—and finding her again.

Somewhere in the middle of loving them, you forgot how to love yourself.
You quieted your voice, dimmed your light, and buried pieces of yourself just to keep the relationship alive.

Now you miss the version of you who was unafraid, unapologetic, and whole.

I Miss Who I Was Before Them is Luma Rae Kai’s raw reflection on self-loss in relationships—and the journey back to the woman you were always meant to be. With her lyrical, intimate style, she offers both honesty and hope: you can reclaim the self you thought was gone.

This isn’t about erasing the love you gave.
It’s about remembering the woman who existed before it—
and becoming her again, stronger than ever.

This is it.
For the girl who got lost trying to be everything for everyone…
This time, it’s your turn.